Send
In findom, a send is simply a payment from a finsub to a findomme. “He sent”, “send now” and “first send” are everyday findom talk.
Send: Findom slang for a payment from a finsub to a findomme, as in “he sent” or “send now”.
What a send is
A send is the act of paying, and the payment itself. It is the most basic word in financial domination: a tribute is a send given as a gift, a tithe is a send on a schedule, and a wishlist gift is a send in the form of something she picked.
On social media, findommes often post “send” or “who’s sending tonight” to invite tributes. A finsub saying “I sent” is telling her a payment is on its way.
The first send
Many findommes ask for a small first send before they reply in depth. It shows a sub is serious and filters out time-wasters. That’s normal, as long as it is small, voluntary and sent somewhere she lists openly.
It stops being normal when the first send is large, urgent, or has to go by gift card or crypto to a stranger. That is how most findom scams start.
Sending safely
Send only what you decided beforehand, only after a real conversation, and never to someone who threatens or rushes you. A real findomme enjoys the send; she doesn’t need to pressure you into it.
Findomination is free and never handles money: her bio and chats say where she takes tributes. Requests for photos, voice notes, texts and tasks work inside the site for free.
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Questions
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Related terms
- TributeA gift of money a finsub gives a findomme, where the giving itself is the point.
- TitheA regular tribute on an agreed schedule, such as weekly or monthly.
- How to find a findommeWhere to look for a real findomme, the red flags to avoid, and how to start safely.
- Human ATMFindom slang for a finsub who enjoys being the one who always pays, as a role both people agreed to.
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- For SubsYour first findom tributeSending your first findom tribute? What to expect, how much to send, how to choose a private method, and what to say so it feels good on both sides.